Psychology

Homosexuality In Children

In the modern society, where homosexuality is not a secret any more, many parents look for the answer to the question, what they would do if their child appears to be homosexual. They are usually afraid of this fact, so many of them trace their children’s behavior carefully in order to notice disturbing signs or on the contrary calm themselves down realizing that their child is not a homosexual. Many parents and other relatives are so much concerned about the issue that tend to raise an alarm without any serious reason. According to Bering, there are signs, some would say omens, glimmering in certain children’s demeanors that, probably ever since there were children, have caused parents’ brows to crinkle with worry, precipitated forced conversations with nosy mothers-in-law, strained marriages and ushered untold numbers into the deep covenant of sexual denial (Bering, 2010). It is essential to consider what signs parents can notice. For example, they can see their little son choosing pink T-shirt because he likes pink color. Some parents can just encourage him to do what he wants, if he is still a little boy. It is not right to think that pink color is the color of homosexuals, however, in this situation, it would be proper to explain to the boy that his friends may not understand him correctly and he may have a conflict. So, it would be better for him to choose another color (Minton, 1986). Besides dressing preferences, there are also other signs, which can make parents worry. For instance, girls may like to play boy’s games and boys may like playing with dolls. . … It is not right to think that pink color is the color of homosexuals, however, in this situation, it would be proper to explain to the boy that his friends may not understand him correctly and he may have a conflict. So, it would be better for him to choose another color (Minton, 1986). Besides dressing preferences, there are also other signs, which can make parents worry. For instance, girls may like to play boy’s games and boys may like playing with dolls. The question is if such behaviors can be treated as signs of different sexual orientation. In psychology it is called gender nonconformity. John Michael Bailey held the corresponding research of this issue and came to the conclusion that if such behavior happens very often, it may be a sign of wrong sexual orientation. He states: if they do it over and over, it’s not a passing thing, and if they seek it out, then it’s often predictive of homosexuality in adulthood in males (Bailey). It is interesting that girls, who tend to behave like boys, do not usually risk to become lesbians in the adulthood. Moreover, sexuality of women can be more flexible and they are not often judged for wrong preferences. Men suffer from the wrong orientation much more while experts insist that the orientation is not dangerous and should be taken for granted: we are suggesting… that we have allowed the homosexual’s obeject choice to dominate and control our imagery of him and have let this aspect of his total life experience appear to determine all his product, concerns, with the sexuality of the individual and attempt to see the homosexuals in terms of the broader attachments that he must make in the world around him (Simon and Garnon, 1967 cited

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